New perspective

Your perspective of any situation is your own choice.

How do you see it? How other ways can you see it? and how can the whole situation change if you change your perspective?

Is that true or just nice words for calming anybody in a difficult situation?

It's said also that your reaction toward anything is totally your choice. I think that reaction is the result of your perspective, so changing your perspective can totally change your reaction.

At the first glance we may consider these words, just words and it's so easy to SAY whatever, but actually it's true.

I used to have conflicts with my mother since I was a teenager, she considered me a stubborn and a disobedient daughter and as I get older our relationship got more and more complicated until I got married and I thought I succeeded to run away from her control, but she never gave up.

As i got kids our conflict area became wider, she is objecting how I treat them and how I must treat them, she may make decisions on my behalf or even taking actions instead of me. Of course I get irritated by her intrusion into my personal life, and of course every time I get irritated we have a row that end by finding myself blamed by all my sorroundings.

May be a change in perspective is all what I need to end the biggest problem of my life. I am sure it can but what is this perspective that can solve this conflict?

Considering her excessively caring instead of intruding, or excessively worrying about anything and everything as she used to be all her life, or just saying OK to calm her.
I am not sure which one could work best for both of us, the only thing that I am sure about is that I need to change my perspective of what she is doing to find MY peace of mind.