Tuesday, December 27, 2011

A Self Talk about Happiness


Happiness is the feeling of being pleased or satisfied. Happiness as a word just expresses a feeling but as a fact in our life it’s the feeling that we are always talking about, looking for, arguing about and we may spend long time thinking how to reach it.

I was thinking about what happiness means to me and the first question that came to my mind is: “What are the happiest moments in my life?” and I came up with several moments like graduation, marriage, birth of my kids, success in my professional life and so on.
But I thought does it mean that happiness is just moments that comes occasionally into my life with specific events? Is it wise to reduce my happiness to few moments in my life? And I asked when can I feel happy? The answer was when I get what I want I will surely feel happy; but if I don’t? I will feel unhappy; but if I don’t get exactly what I want? I won’t feel happy for the rest of my life. And if I get something else that may be better than I expect? For sure I won’t notice it, I am focusing only on what I want and waiting for it. And when I noticed that I am limiting myself to a set of wants without them I won’t feel happy I realized how I am oppressing myself, I am hard to myself and depriving myself from many pleasures and opportunities (that I don’t know) which may come my way and I won’t see because I am looking for something else.

What if I make it simpler? Just live in the present moment, be myself, do my best, be grateful, connect with people, keep my focus on others and not myself, simply live and not be attached to any outcomes. 

Just live with an open mind and heart. 

This was my self talk about how to feel happy, what is yours?

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

REACH, HIGHER

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Lyrics of the song REACH   (Gloria Estefan)

Some dreams live on in time forever
Those dreams, you want with all your heart
And I’ll do whatever it takes
Follow through with the promise I made
Put it all on the line
What I hoped for at last will be mine

If I could reach, higher
Just for one moment touch the sky
From that one moment in my life
I’m gonna be stronger
Know I’ve tried my very best
I’d put my spirit to the test
If I could reach

Some days are meant to be remembered
Those days we rise above the stars
So I’ll go the distance this time
See the more higher I climb
That the more I believe
All the more that this dream will be mine

If I could reach, higher
Just for one moment touch the sky
From that one moment in my life
I’m gonna be stronger
Know I’ve tried my very best
I’d put my spirit to the test
If I could reach

If I could reach, higher
Just for one moment touch the sky
I’m gonna be stronger
From that one moment in my life
I’m gonna be so much stronger yes I am
I’ve tried my very best
I’d put my spirit to the test
If I could reach
If I could, if I could
If I could reach
Reach, I’d reach, I’d reach
I’d reach  I’d reach so much higher
Be stronger

How wonderful to be able to reach higher and higher, go beyond our limits, know our highest potential, face all the challenges with courage and complete belief in our abilities and strengths.

Saturday, September 17, 2011

Need help

     May be my today's post is not like previous ones, in my previous posts I was always doing my best to be positive and focus on every positive aspects in my life. How I learned to improve my life and how I learned that my life and my happiness are my own responsibility. Yes my beliefs and my thoughts shape my life. It's up to me to focus on the positive or the negative.


     But during the past two weeks I was totally drained because of someone in my life who is careless and negligent. Someone who doesn't care a lot about what I want?, what hurts me?, what annoys me?, and although I keep telling them, they always find excuses for what they do. I told them about it in all possible ways but nothing changed. I feel really powerless. The situation that is coming up repeatedly is not the only one, there is a big baggage from the past that I am trying hard to let go but it shows up with every new unpleasant situation. The impact of all of that is not just some annoyances but it shows physically as pain in different parts of my body, stomach pain, IBS and headaches.


I really feel powerless and all what I was repeating to myself as being positive, taking responsibility, responding and not reacting,  focusing on the blessings and being grateful isn't working any more. I need help. 

Monday, July 18, 2011

Life balance


When I think about the word balance, I think of fairness, equilibrium and stability; everything is in the right amount. When I think about balance in life and how we may apply it on different aspects of our life, I find that first we need to be clear about our values then make the balance according to them .


While thinking about my life in the past I realize there weren't any balance in my life and I didn't give enough attention to my values. My life was a long list of  SHOULD DO that was dictated by a so demanding and stressful job, two young kids and a familial life that according to the culture doesn't allow a lot of freedom to the woman. The ideal and perfect woman, in my culture, is the woman who remembers and cares about all the members of her family and extended family except herself. Some women could live this way for some time but later on when they get older and realize that they didn't enjoy their life some of them get depressed and they feel that they lost their life. A woman who looks for her happiness and her satisfaction is a selfish woman and she is not accepted or appreciated.  No one knows that the happiness of the woman is a must for all others in the family to be happy.  No one realize that a miserable, angry, resentful and frustrated woman is never a nice person to live with.

I address my post to all the women in my community and especially mid aged women. Those who lived a big part of their life thinking only about what others need and what others want; those who were stealing, secretly, some parts of their time for themselves as if it wasn't their right. I tell them:" Put yourself as a first priority and think about your needs as you think about others needs. Know what really matters to you and live according to it. Make a BALANCE between your needs and others needs and let everybody help you to keep this balance." Don't think or say nobody will do without even asking; just ASK and you will be astonished how they will all support you because they all love you and need you. The main problem is you never asked; you assume that others know what you want and what you need but actually they don't because they are not you. Only you knows until you let them know; teach them lovingly how to treat you, respect your needs and support you. Be clear about what you expect of them. 

So start now and think about how to bring satisfaction, happiness and fulfillment to your life by making the BALANCE. Let your family and friends support you. Don't say it's too late; no it's never too late just be clear about what is important to you and make it as one of your first priorities and do it on a daily or weekly basis as you want, it will bring you a lot of energy, satisfaction and fulfillment. 
Think how to make yourself happy and your life won't be the same any more.


This post is part of a blog hop series sponsored by students and graduate Coaches of ICA. Please hop on over to their posts and see what else you can learn about balance
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Please feel free to share your comments, ideas and thoughts, thanks.

Sunday, May 29, 2011

How to conduct a simpler life?


    I keep thinking about how to improve my life, bring more happiness, more energy and live in peace with myself and the universe. I thought about how to simplify my life and what benefits it can bring to my life?

   I found some tips that may help to make my life simpler and I like to share them with you. The first step is to focus on my priorities and do what really matters for me, keep what is really important to me in my house, my office and my mind. Keeping only what is important has a very positive impact on the clarity of the mind and the thoughts. It makes me feel satisfied, peaceful and relaxed at the end of the day, in addition to feeling productive and successful.
Being organized about the important things I decided to keep in my life is the second step to make my life simpler, stuff that I need frequently (daily or weekly) is to be kept in the foreground but other stuff less needed (monthly or occasionally) is to be kept in the background.  By foreground I mean a close place as drawers or lower shelves in my closet while background can be higher shelves in the same closet.  The same can be applied in the office; the essential is to keep stuff frequently needed so close to not waste a lot of time and energy to find.  The hardest part is to keep only important stuff in my mind; currently I don't know exactly how to do it but I think that keeping an agenda or to do list to follow can help but it will never prevent negative thoughts and self  talks to invade my mind. I think it needs to be elaborated more deeply in another post.
Keeping  my environment clean and beautiful, is the third step. By doing so I am sending myself a message  that I love and respect myself; as I keep my house clean for my guests because they are important to me; I keep all my life clean and beautiful because I am telling myself that I am important to ME.
Be consistent with the past 3 rules until I make it a habit is the fourth step.
The fifth and last step is to recheck regularly that I am living by these rules especially keeping only important stuff ; it is the maintenance step.

    I think that these steps not only will make physical space in my life to be able to add new things but  they are making space for more positive energy to come into my life.

Please feel free to share your comments, ideas and thoughts to simplify our life, thanks.