When I think about the word balance, I think of fairness, equilibrium and stability; everything is in the right amount. When I think about balance in life and how we may apply it on different aspects of our life, I find that first we need to be clear about our values then make the balance according to them .
While thinking about my life in the past I realize there weren't any balance in my life and I didn't give enough attention to my values. My life was a long list of SHOULD DO that was dictated by a so demanding and stressful job, two young kids and a familial life that according to the culture doesn't allow a lot of freedom to the woman. The ideal and perfect woman, in my culture, is the woman who remembers and cares about all the members of her family and extended family except herself. Some women could live this way for some time but later on when they get older and realize that they didn't enjoy their life some of them get depressed and they feel that they lost their life. A woman who looks for her happiness and her satisfaction is a selfish woman and she is not accepted or appreciated. No one knows that the happiness of the woman is a must for all others in the family to be happy. No one realize that a miserable, angry, resentful and frustrated woman is never a nice person to live with.
I address my post to all the women in my community and especially mid aged women. Those who lived a big part of their life thinking only about what others need and what others want; those who were stealing, secretly, some parts of their time for themselves as if it wasn't their right. I tell them:" Put yourself as a first priority and think about your needs as you think about others needs. Know what really matters to you and live according to it. Make a BALANCE between your needs and others needs and let everybody help you to keep this balance." Don't think or say nobody will do without even asking; just ASK and you will be astonished how they will all support you because they all love you and need you. The main problem is you never asked; you assume that others know what you want and what you need but actually they don't because they are not you. Only you knows until you let them know; teach them lovingly how to treat you, respect your needs and support you. Be clear about what you expect of them.
So start now and think about how to bring satisfaction, happiness and fulfillment to your life by making the BALANCE. Let your family and friends support you. Don't say it's too late; no it's never too late just be clear about what is important to you and make it as one of your first priorities and do it on a daily or weekly basis as you want, it will bring you a lot of energy, satisfaction and fulfillment.
Think how to make yourself happy and your life won't be the same any more.
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Please feel free to share your comments, ideas and thoughts, thanks.
What a beautiful blog! Straight from your heart. It has touched my heart as well. This sends a lot of love to your fellow women. The advise is beautiful and very supportive. Thanks for sharing
ReplyDeleteWater is not retrieved from an empty well, and happiness is not bestowed from an unhappy heart.
ReplyDeleteYour writing style is very compelling and I wish you much success in bringing forth knowledge and awareness of these important things.
Thank you very much Joe for your empowering words. I always doubt my writing capabilities although I liked it a lot since I started blogging. I always thought people who have any kind of talents, writing, drawing...etc) to express their feeling are really blessed. I never thought I would be able to do it some day I spent all my life on the computer developing software, making plans, managing people I never thought I would write or be interested in writing some day. By thanks for coaching that helped me to do it. Thank you:)
ReplyDeleteThanks Renee. Yes it's from the heart and all my blogs are all I think about when I write any blog is to feel every word I write and to express my feelings. I feel relieved when I share my feelings with others. I sympathize a lot with women all over the world in general. In many communities women need a lot of support and many of them are unhappy but they are powerless that's why I intend to make it my niche, supporting women to find their happiness and success. Thanks for taking the time to post me a comment.
ReplyDeleteNihad, I posted some comment earlier but it didn't show. I wanted to share with you that coming from a different culture I have also experienced those feelings of having to give and give and give. We need to stop and realise that if we, mothers, don't take care of ourselves we will never be able to get a balanced family life. It is not shameful to do things that brings sense of happiness and fulfillment to our lives. That way everybody wins.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely Nuria and that is what I want to tell every woman and every mother. Thanks
ReplyDeleteNihad, as a single mother of a child with autism, there are pieces of time that seem all give and no take on my part. It is a great relief to the take part of it when I can. And I do find it be difficult to do anything at all well when I am not at peak energy or health.
ReplyDeleteHere's to empowerment of women and through them a more thoughtful empowerment of the rest of the world.
Thanks Jenn for checking my blog and the comment.
ReplyDeleteI agree that children with some kind of illness are challenging in taking care of, especially you are single, the load is double.
Yes, I believe that empowering women and supporting them is the best way to empower the whole world, their empowerment and happiness will affect all those surrounding them.
I acknowledge you for your courage and wish all the success in your coaching business:)